Well, I’m no Peeping Tom….

May 20, 2008

Over the weekend I was reading an article in the NY Times about some shady guy who has become a billionaire through processing internet fees.  Something about Porn, some sort of Bible site, and scamming people out of money meant for the ASPCA.  I’m a whiz with facts and details!

Anyway, in the article a website was mentioned that I had never heard of before.  Being the curious internet surfer that I am, now that I’m an unemployed lady of leisure, I immediately went to check it out.  HOLY TECNO-REHAB, check me in now I’m hooked!  It’s a site called www.stickam.com.  It’s an online community with live feeds from ANYONE!  What’s that you say?  Live feeds?  Isn’t that only for seedy pornography websites?  Well, yes it is… but this is a free live feed that allows you to watch anyone who is a member of this site, and I haven’t caught any porn yet thankfully.  You don’t even have to join!! It’s totally creepy, weird and and wrong, but I can’t stop watching.  It’s like a trainwreck, it’s absolutely disgusting, but I can’t take my eyes off of it.  To date I’ve watched several weird Emo guys with face piercings chatting online and just hanging out, several provocative looking “hopefully” twenty-somethings flirting and IMing with one another, some hypnotherapist spewing her hypno-knowledge and taking questions and responses from community members, several wanna be DJ’s spinning their Musak, and I’ve even viewed the DJ booths at radio stations around the world.  It’s a voyeur’s description of Heaven.

In my twenties, probably in some sort of shall we say…”self induced haze” I had this notion that it would be absolutely fascinating to begin my own public access show.  I even sent away for the information and application needed to get things started.   I don’t know exactly what I thought I’d do, but in my mind there were some definites that I knew were in my favor, I thought I was funny andI thought my friends were funny.  SOLD!  I’ve got a show.  I’d just sit around a be funny with my high pitched voice and I’d get this huge following.  In the end, there was a lot of paperwork and planning involved, and really, I’m a voyeur…not meant to be in front of the camera so this notion of a huge following never came to fruition.  As far as I can remember the paperwork was thrown out or used as scratch paper for a grocery list, but the fact still remains that the notion was there.  Now 15 or so years later, there is a whole website full of people who for all intense and purposes could have their own public access show!  How cool is that!?  I know that YouTube provided this, but the difference is these feeds are LIVE, no editing, no replay, in your face live access.  Danny Bonaduce even has a show with a slotted time on this website.  I know, he’s hip to any medium that will get his narcissitic gob out there, but still…I swear Stickam is going to become all the rage, you wait and see.  Again, I wont be rubbing elbows with Bonaduce anytime soon.  I’m the voyeur type, that public access show idea died with my Doc Marten’s and ripped jeans. 


Now for the responsible disclaimer andmy “adult/therapist” reflections…I completely recognize that this site is just plain old creepy.  Deep down I have guilt that I find this site so fascinating, but it definitely peaks my sociological and psychological interests of human behavior. Ever since I have discovered the wonders of the internet, I am often fascinated at how much people are willing to and want to reveal in their blogs, on YouTube, their MySpace pages and Facebook accounts, but this “Live Feed voyeurism” takes it to a whole nother level.  It seems seedier, more dangerous and more accessible. My “people watching” fascination aside…I recognize that this site is like taking MySpace and spoon feeding it to the pedophiles.  Many of the “girls” on the site have incredibly provocative pictures of themselves accompanied with nasty, stripper-pole pin-names.  When clicked on, they often look much younger than their pictures, and are your typical girl sitting at their computer like any average teen/twentysomething typing away and IMing to their hearts content.  The sad thing is that 1st) they feel they have to put up provocative pictures to lure people to come and chat with them, and 2nd) our society dictates that this kind of behavior is okay.  Even here in Ireland, where the weather is less than temperate, you often find teenagers dressing provocatively, beyond their age, showing more skin than necessary and doing their best to “vamp up” their look.  With this in mind, this site, with it’s free entree into these poor young girls lives leaves them sitting ducks for predators.  The problem is, that rational thinking amongst the masses is such a difficult thing to manage in a society that emulates Paris Hilton for being nothing but a drunk heiress. 

Ultimately the responsibility lies with the parents and within the family unit.  As I have said in my previous posts, I hope to be a parent that will bring up a child with better judgement, a child with brains and opinions, and the ability to adapt to the norm, but not “BE” the norm.  I hope to have a child that takes risks with her mind and intellect rather than with her body.  I hope.  With the world going in the topsy turvy way that it’s going, I know I will have my work cut out for me.  I pray that the numerous girls that are on this website have informed their parents of their accounts, or at least their parents monitor their web use.  I pray. 

Today, I am a fairly level headed woman in her mid-30’s with a Master’s Degree and what I consider some pretty good core values.  I definitely took some seriously stupid risks in my youth, but as a teenager/twentysomething I never had the opportunity to put my life out there for the world to see with the same ease that the youth of today have.  The fact of the matter is…I had the desire and I was certain it would be DAMN funny!  Which brings me to the reality that, I really wasn’t that much different than the kids of today, It’s just that I’m old and back then… there was just too much damn paperwork. 




One Response to “Well, I’m no Peeping Tom….”

  1. Greg Says:

    Stacie’s World! Party Time! Excellent! Woo-woo-woo-woo-woo!

    Of course, you know if you had started a public access show with your friends, you’d definitely have had a “creepy guy” contingent in your viewership.

    Just remember, the creepy people on the Internet were not created by the Internet. They just flocked to it.

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